Thursday, October 13, 2011

Your Holy Father-In-Law

Hopefully, I didn't make you laugh, but I'm not talking about that one; not your earthly father-in-law, but your holy heavenly Father-in-Law.

I mentioned in a previous post that the hubster's and I were embarking on a journey of hosting a small group in our home for young married couples, which is going very well, if I might add.  Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas is the series that we are going through, and I would strongly recommend this series for engaged, newly married, and even those married for a while.

We just completed the third session, and it covered the idea of being a God-centered spouse.  A God-centered spouse will love and respect their mate out of reverence for God regardless of how they may be acting in a particular moment.  The premise is that God has hand picked and designed our spouse to compliment us, and if we mistreat them, we have to answer to Him.  Our spouse is God's child above all else, so it's best that we love and cherish them through every circumstance, even the difficult ones.

One of the study guide questions really struck me and almost brought me to tears.  Matter of fact, the question was just as impactful for all the other couples.  It was one of those moments where you get a gentle shake from the Spirit.

Here's the question: "If we lived with a profound awareness that our husband or wife is a precious and loved child of God and that our heavenly Father-in-Law cares deeply about how we treat them, how might this impact the way we care for our spouse."

What a, "Wow God moment!"  The first time I went through this question, I almost fell on my face full of tears.  I just thought back over all the bad times when I was way less than a Christian wife; probably more like a ravenous beast.  I couldn't do anything but ask for forgiveness for all of those times; the ugly nasty times.

Another thing I'd like to add is a word of advice from a friend that goes a little something like this, "Do more than your share and don't keep score."

I just think back to all the times where I turned my back on the hubsters because I felt like he wasn't doing enough for me or he wasn't giving the same amount of love and tender care that I was giving him. After reading the question from the study guide, I just feel so silly, but it gives me motivation to be better.  Each day, I aspire to make my holy heavenly Father-in-Law proud.

What are some revelations you've had about your marriage over the years?


  1. This is a really great post! Marriage is definitely hard work and sometimes you get complacent with your relationship. The longer we have been married, the stronger we have grown as a team. We know each other's strengths and weaknesses, so we pick up the slack that way. I like the quote above about not keeping score.


  2. I feel the same way, Heather. When we first got married, I didn't think we were ever going to get on the same page and see eye to eye with anything. It's one of my favorite quotes.

  3. Love this post TiAnna, there are so many struggles in marriage that people tend to mask to save face, I think group seatings with other couples will really help to face the problems easily and help understand that everyone goes through it even if they choose to hide it..Great quote too : )) LOVE it..

  4. It is very therapeutic to hear that you are not in the struggle of marriage alone, and other are going throught the same or similar situations. I love that quote too, because if both of us are constantly trying to do our best for the other and hold each other up in high esteem out of reverence for God, then we really can't go wrong

  5. I'm so glad you are doing this, dear--we need all the help we can get, don't we?

    I love your photos, esp. the one with your son.

    That question pulled me up short, too. Thanks for sharing it!

  6. So inspiring and the exact attitude we should have about marriage and how we treat out spouses. :)


  7. @Jeanette- This process has truly brought us closer together. Thanks!

    @Jess- Amen!


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